Of this week's questions, Bev writes:
In honor of the appoaching Halloween, I found this weirdly formatted set on a question meme site.
ghost: what would you like on your tombstone? I don't even know if I want a tombstone. I've been thinking, lately, that maybe I want to be cremated...not that it will make any difference to me at that point, but it would be financially kinder to my family and better for the planet. If I end up buried under a stone I want it to be memorable...either a really cool sculpture or engraving or a great quote/funny saying.
dracula: are you afraid of aging? or death? Death doesn't scare me because I am confident in where I am going. Aging is another story. I try not to think about it or worry, but what will become of me when I am old is one of my middle of the night fears.
nosferatu: what, as a child, did you imagine went bump in the night? I don't know that I had anything in particular in my mind, but I definitely thought a lot of stuff went bump in the night when I was a kid.
godzilla: what do you do when you are angry? are you ever destructive? I try to remember to turn to prayer to keep it under control, but I'm not always successful. What I do when I fail depends on who or what I am angry at. Sometimes I yell or say snarky stuff, but mostly I go silent and fume. I'm never destructive.
the blob: do you collect anything? if so, what & why? All kinds of books with a collection of cookbooks within that collection. Why? Because they are books, isn't that enough? And I like to cook.
zombie: when was the last time you trusted your gut? was it successful? I don't think my "gut" talks to me except concerning relationships (not just romantic ones) and yeah, it's usually right about those.
mothra: what is something dangerous that attracts or fascinates you? Tornadoes. I've been through one and I'm sort of nervous about them, but I'm also morbidly fascinated. There is nothing like a good tornado movie...and Into the Storm is the best!
king kong: what are some questionable choices you've made lately? I don't think I've made any lately. I've gotten a lot better over the years about thinking things through. In fact, I probably think too much about things before I act.
alien: what is your strangest feature? My ears. I hate my ears.
cthulhu: do you like the ocean? why or why not? I like it. I like to walk by it, look at it, hear it, smell it, boat on top of it, fish in it, see the things that live in it...but I do NOT get in it past my ankles. Ever.
nessie: have you ever felt invisible to people -- the feeling of not existing? Yeah, it's one of the things I have to stay on guard for when I fall into the whole over thinking things trap.
On a more serious note...
mutant spider: what is one of your biggest fears? Snakes, sharks (why I don't get in the ocean), being old and alone or at the mercy of heaven only knows who.
werewolf: if you could change into any nonhuman animal and back at will, what animal would you change into and why? A camel. Camels are cooler than heck and they've got attitude in spades.
golem: if you could make up an imaginary friend, what would they be like and why? Why would I want an imaginary friend...unless it's to keep me company in that nursing home with horrible caretakers I'm going to end up in?
leprechaun: what is your "pot of gold" (or white whale, if you'd rather) By this you mean the thing that I pursue and yet it eludes me? Losing weight. I've lost some, but.... Well, that and a winning billion dollar Power Ball ticket.
sharktopus: what is something you've done that was ridiculous or a bad decision? Not that I regret marrying my husband, but I should have finished my degree first.
robot: what is a habit you do without thinking? Using good manners. My dad absolutely drilled them into my head and messing up brought swift punishment. I have to admit to being a wee bit of a snob when it comes to manners...at least in those who should know better.
I did not get the leprechaun question at all. Oh well. I enjoyed your answers. And I'm listening to that Pollack talk on invisibility. Very good.
ReplyDeleteIt's interesting, and maybe I'm wrong, but since that was posted 5 or so years ago...it seems to me that there's a shift in that. I can look around now and find many examples of women in their 50's and beyond who are anything but invisible. Where you never used to see more mature models or plus size women in entertainment or advertising, there are quite a few now. I hope it continues. Men don't get written off for being heavier or older, why are women?
DeleteI thoroughly enjoyed your answers. I was so tired last night when I read the questions that I just decided to pass this week. My body still hurts from all the walking I did yesterday. Joe and I already decided on cremation and have purchased our little niche that will hold both of our ashes when the time comes. The plaque will have our names and birth and death dates. That's it. That nursing home/who will care for me question does make me pause now and then. My folks both dies early (younger than me, now). Yep. I think about it.
ReplyDeleteI didn't go back and read yet....where on earth did you two go yesterday?
DeleteI think if I am cremated I'd like to be sprinkled somewhere that meant a lot to me.
What an ADORE-able Scooby-Doo!
ReplyDeleteLike Terri said, Tom and I want to be cremated. In fact, I'm going to check out becoming a tree. Have you heard of that?
So interesting about your fascination with tornados. That's my biggest fear about moving to Alabama.
I have heard of that! There are some other options out there, too. I've heard there's one where you can be turned into a lab created gem stone or something like that. Can you imagine..."Oh, I love your necklace!" "Thanks, it used to be Uncle Roy." Ewwwwww!
DeleteAlabama does have some wicked weather. We have family in Haleyville and they always said there was no worries about tornadoes where they lived because they always stayed on the other side of town. Um, yeah. That held true until it didn't and half the town was wiped out. Now they seem to hit anywhere and everywhere.
I loved that clip you posted. Thank you. But re: invisibility, it's horrible to admit but sometimes I don't mind it. Being older and fatter has its advantages. Remember the recent #METOO postings? On some deep and sad level, I'm not sorry that I no longer attract that kind of attention at work or in public.
ReplyDeleteI'm not really in a job situation where that would be a problem so I don't think about it there, but I can see where it could be a relief for you. Invisibility bothers me when I'm with a group of women who make me feel that way, though I am learning that often that is more our mental state and perception at the time than anyone actually ignoring us. We tend to put up walls and distance ourselves in situations where we already feel insecure in an effort to avoid being hurt. Not the brightest creatures sometimes, are we?
DeleteBoth of our sons were cremated,but their cremains are buried in the cemetery. I just wanted SOMEWHERE to go to visit them. Walt and I will be cremated too and have a plot near the boys. I do like the idea of becoming a tree, tho...
ReplyDeleteBeing a tree does have appeal, but so does having my ashes spread in a place that was meaningful to me. My family can visit the place and remember the good things. My husband is going to be cremated and I am thinking when the time comes I will ask the current owner of the land that was the farm he grew up on if I can take him up on the hill and let him be part of the place he loved best.
DeleteMy son was cremated and for now his ashes are here at home with me. Someday I will have his ashed placed in a cemetery....just not yet.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter was cremated and this year or next her sister wants to scatter some of them down in this county where there are places she loved.
ReplyDeleteLol about be nice to your kids, they are the ones who will pick your nursing home. So true!